Hello hello hello beautiful reading people!
It has been a hot minute (or couple of months) since my last post. I was randomly thumbing through my diary yesterday looking for literally ANYTHING to write about because I’ve been disconnected from this space for so long, I was low on inspiration. I came across the entry I made on my 22nd birthday where I shared 22 important things that I’ve learned in 22 years. If they were just dumb life tips, they would never find their way into my blog, but as I read the things I’ve learned , I was almost in tears. I think the things I shared on that day are important and so, as this blog is a reflection of my life, I wanted to share them here.
So here we go, exclusive access to Cerena’s diary 🙂
(Yes I know, writing a diary is the most lame)
1. ) Life does not always go as planned- and that’s okay. I will defiantly not be graduating college in the spring and as upset as that used to make me, I now know that plans change. The path for my life will probably change hundreds of different times and as heartbreaking as that can seem, it is important to remind myself simply: it is okay.
2.) If you let yourself stray from your close relationship to God, you will feel it. It will be so prevalent that it will affect every single thing in your life. I sometimes find myself becoming “lazy” essentially in my relationship with God, taking advantage of the fact that no matter what, He will always be there for me. This past year alone, it has become so obvious that I could never do anything without Him. He quite literally has carried me most of the time.
3.) Everything happens for a reason- trust in His plan. When you think things are falling apart, just remind yourself that they are not. They are about to fall into place so get ready!
4.) Do not listen to sad songs when you’re sad, they will absolutely make you more sad.
5.) Life will always be worth living. You have greatness to achieve and so many lives to touch.
6.) Not everyone is going to like you. This is so hard for me to accept because I am a libra and also need so much validation from others. Yeah……I am working on it.
7.) You will never lose weight/ get the body you want unless you do it in a healthy way. Everyone is different but for me, I have always struggled with body image. I have tried so many incredibly unhealthy ways to “get skinnier” without realizing how much I was damaging myself both mentally and physically. It was recently, actually after I turned 22, that I decided that I was going to change my whole entire lifestyle and live in a way that promotes a healthy body image.
8.) You can’t keep a close friendship with someone who doesn’t believe in God. As hard as it can be to cut off friendships, I’ve come to the realization that someone who doesn’t share my desire to be in relationship with God isn’t someone I could ever truly be close with. When it feels like you’re friends with someone but the friendship’s not going anywhere and feels shallow, it’s because you cannot connect with them on a deeper level when they don’t share your same beliefs. This isn’t to say that you can’t make strives to lead them into relationship with God but when they explicitly express that they are not interested, sometimes it’s best to not peruse a deeper friendship. They can anchor you down and limit your growth in your own relationship with God.
9.) Don’t regret the decisions that have gotten you to where you are today. It’s so easy to regret decisions that you’ve made that maybe didn’t work out as you originally planned. The way I look at it, I may have regrets but each decision I made brought me to this very spot today. Maybe I regret where I decided to go to school , maybe I regret not studying for a test, but I will never regret meeting the people I have met along the way. If not making mistakes meant never meeting some of the people in my life, I would make the same mistake a million times again.
10.) Don’t settle for anything less than you deserve. This goes for anything and everything you want. Follow your dreams and remember that you deserve the world.
11.) Friends will come and go. I’ve learned that when friends decide to leave your life and it seems so sudden and tragic- you will try to blame yourself. I’ll pick myself apart and wonder why I’m such a terrible person that nobody wants to be around me anymore. I’ve done a ton of soul-searching and now know why I don’t make friends easily, or keep the ones I had. But instead of focusing on how I can ruin relationships, I choose to focus on how I can use what I’ve learned to be a better friend in the future.
12.) Time Flies. Time really does fly by like it’s nothing. I feel as if the older I get, the faster time goes by. Or maybe, I’m just old enough to understand how precious it is.
13.) Be grateful for everything. Remind everyone in your life how much you love and appreciate them and do it often. Be grateful for the little things, the things you take for granted constantly-your home, the food you eat, the ability to spend time with friends and family. Be grateful for the life God has given you every single day and don’t forget to thank Him for it.
14.) Don’t compare yourself to others, especially on social media. I have recently fallen into the trap of constantly comparing myself and my life to the life of someone I know based on their Instagram/Facebook/Twitter. This is so unhealthy because you are comparing your whole entire life, the highs and the lows, to their highlight reel, to what they choose to put out into the world. As cliche as it is, you can’t compare your chapter four to someone else’s chapter twenty. Life isn’t a race.
15.) Go after the things that you want fearlessly. When I set my sights on something I want, I put it out into the universe that I will have it. Anyway, anyhow, I will achieve the things I want to, will accomplish the dreams I have. This helps me to not worry about whether or not these things will come to pass because I have all the confidence in the world that they will.
16.) Do what scares you. I’ve learned, especially lately, to get outside my comfort zone and whenever something seems scary, I take that as a sign that it might be a good thing to try.
17.) It’s okay to be an adult who is still young at heart. I will never apologize for being one of the world’s biggest Disney fans.
18.) Everyone is fighting their own battle. You will never know what someone else is going through mentally, it doesn’t show on the outside. Be kind to everyone, with your words, actions, and the way you treat others. Choose to spread only kindness and positivity to those around you.
19.) The sadness will end. It’s so easy to get sucked in by depression or even just a deep sadness from loss, heartbreak, or suffering and think that it will never end. It’s so easy to feel like it’ll be this way forever. But it won’t. Sadness is a season, it may come to stay a while but it won’t last.
20.) It’s okay to miss people who are not in your life anymore. I remember telling someone I know that I think it”s unhealthy to think about old friends almost everyday. They looked me in the eyes and said that is completely normal. Time really does heal all wounds because the more time you put between now and when it happened, the better you will feel. Everyday gets easier and it’s okay to miss people.
21.) Love your big heart. I have learned to love my big heart and my love for other people. I fall in love with every person that I meet. I used to feel like getting so easily attached to people was a curse, I would blame myself for all the pain I cause myself by becoming so invested in other people but the truth is, I would so much rather feel every single thing so deeply than feel nothing at all.
22.) It’s okay to not be okay. Perhaps the most important thing I’ve learned in the past 22 years is that it is so important to put your mental health first. It is so important to prioritize your feelings and feel validated by friends and family. It’s also important to not be afraid to ask for help when you need it.